A Mother Has Needs

We know that when everyone has a holiday, a mother doesn't. When everyone wants to take it easy, a mother: feeds people all day long, tends to little ones who are up at 5 am, talks to teens until way after midnight, helps look for lost items, helps to refill air in soccer balls or bike tires, plans activities, greets extra friends at the door and cleans up those extra spills on the kitchen floor.

Christmas is especially difficult because a mom is expected to do more fancy baking, expected to decorate, expected to buy the presents, expected to do the wrapping, expected to help kids to purchase presents for siblings or great aunts.

She is expected to go to concerts at school, to be a party organizer, and to dry winter-wear overnight. As well, she tries to keep up with the mounds of laundry, normal meals, and the monitoring of the comings and goings of each family member.

A mother needs a maid to come in to clean up so that she can see the floor in the bathroom or find things in the closet. The maid also has to do laundry and windows.

A mother needs a cook to come in and put ready-to-eat meals in her freezer and make cookies for after school snacks.

A mother needs a busboy to come in nightly to clean the kitchen, empty the dishwasher and fill it so that her kitchen is clean the next morning.

A mother needs a plumber to fix leaks, take hair out of the sink drains and help with flooding toilets.

A mother needs a cosmetologist to fix her hair, her nails and her make-up so that she feels beautiful when she is home or out.

A mother needs a wardrobe consultant to advise her on her choices for the day - especially when things are too tight, baggy or out-of-date.

A mother needs a Pilate’s instructor to help her to exercise to feel rejuvenated.

A mother needs a spa coordinator to give her back her serenity with a full body massage and a facial to help with worry lines and crow’s-feet.

A mother needs a dental hygienist to clean her teeth when she goes for days not finding her toothbrush.

A mother needs a chauffeur to run the kids to school or a ball game that someone has to be to “NOW” and she is not dressed.

A mother needs a psychologist to advise her on how to handle a moody family member.

A mother needs a personal shopper to buy groceries without 3 in tow and little fingers putting extras into the basket. That shopper must also make some late night trips to the store for last minute project supplies or for the forgotten office potluck salad.

A mother needs a babysitter to keep the 3 kids from killing each other, tearing the house apart or coming in and out when she is trying to take a bath to relax.

A mother needs a smiling hologram of her standing in the middle of the house reassuring her family that they still cares in spite of being passed out on the bed from exhaustion.

A mother needs a vacation without the kids - to take a deep breath & to celebrate that she is still alive.

A mother needs a partner to love and cherish her and tell her that she is worth the sun, the moon and the stars and that raising a family is worth it.

That partner will also be there to make sure it all works out.